TIPS ON WRITING SEX SCENES

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The back of Titian’s Boatman’s jacket

1. Don’t – you fool! Are you insane? People have sex but it doesn’t mean you have to write about it. Don’t, don’t, don’t …

2. However if one of your main characters is a Venetian courtesan (as in my book TITIAN’S BOATMAN …) do not think you can skip them. Sex, after all, was the currency of the courtesan and if you avoid them everyone will rightly think you are a coward.

3. If you feel you have to, make sure you mother and father are six foot under. Whatever it takes – literally is best but metaphorically will do. Dead, dead, dead … ashes to ashes … because you simply cannot imagine them reading … oh dear God … (puts fingers in ears and closes eyes and sings la, la, la…) and you can’t afford the twenty years of Freudian therapy to call them by their first names let alone . . . No, sorry, dead parents is the only answer.

4. Now convince yourself that no one you know will ever read them. Your book will not be published. No one will ever read them other than you.

5. If you are writing Renaissance sex scenes read Renaissance pornography. Pietro Aretino’s Ragionamenti are bawdy, funny, satirical and you will pick up some useful descriptions and metaphors … ‘Rubbing his rod and olives’ was one I particularly liked and would never, ever have dreamed up. Also you will never view nuns and monks in the same light.

6. If your book is going to be published do not read through the sex scenes obsessively at the editing stage and fret about those elderly aunts who are approaching 90 who might read them. Do not do that whatever you do, especially if they disapproved of one of your earlier books in which someone swore once or twice (OK it was the ‘c’ word) … and in which your main character had sex once or … Oh good lord, she was tied to the banisters in the first scene, wasn’t she? Excuse me while I . . . delete . . . delete . . . dump memory . . . dump memory . . .

7. Now where was I? In fact who am I? It is probably best not to say to your agent or your editor when in a state of high anxiety, ‘Are the sex scenes alright?’ because it will only embarrass them and you and really what are the poor dears going to say to you? If the answer is ‘no’ where do you go from there?

8. Once the book is published if at all possible obliterate said sex scenes from your mind completely, so that when your partner after a phone conversation with a mutual friend looks at you quizzically and says ‘She’s enjoying the sex scenes…’ you can immediately respond, ‘What sex scenes are those?’ in an entirely natural tone of voice.

9. If you end up in the Bad Sex Awards blame your agent and editor and comfort yourself with the thought that at least one person has read your book and all publicity is good publicity… and then make a secret vow that you will never write another as long as you live. Never, never, never … to quote King Lear. Oh, dear and look what happened to him …

10. If you bump into your neighbour and he looks at you in a curious way and says, ‘Oh, I’m half way through and I’m … (very, very long pause here broken by his mobile going off) … excited … err, sorry I have to take this call.’ Do not overanalyse any aspect of what he has said. Just don’t. And it’s probably best to delete the whole scene from your brain immediately along with the sex scenes.

11. Make a vow that you will never write another one as long as you live.

What do you think about sex scenes in novels? Like? Loathe? Laughable? Oh, go on – do tell. I’m absolutely not looking for comments on mine because I didn’t write any, did I?

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15 thoughts on “TIPS ON WRITING SEX SCENES

  1. Conversation in choir vestry shortly before Solemn Mass, a few years ago: A:’I don’t write sex scenes in my novels because I don’t want to end up in the Bad Sex Awards’ Me:’But there’s no such thing as bad publicity’ B (overhearing): ‘I though you said there’s no such thing as bad sex…’

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  2. Hahaha! This post is clearly heartfelt! I’d stick with number 1 myself. But having read Birdsong, no other book stands a chance of winning my award for Most Cringeworthy Sex Scene of All Time – I hope! Or maybe no. 12 is the way to go – use a nom de plume and don’t tell anyone!! 😉

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  3. I’m afraid I was cowardly about my only reference to (straight-forward, marital) sex in one of my books. I took the view that as the narrator is one of the participants, a constable in the 1820s, he would not have gone into details and so I simply referred to “half an hour later”…. I thought that was suitably indicative of the prowess, loving-ness and success of the encounter!

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  4. Sex scenes – notoriously difficult to write, I would imagine. Certainly notoriously difficult to read!
    Not that I’ve read any, but the Shades of Grey series must show what happens when you get it right …
    Having read all your novels, Ms Blake, I can honestly say that I find your sex scenes brave, convincing and not all all cringe-worthy!

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